Hello Camellia Yang. Congratulations on a really remarkable Substack. (My site is only a few months old, I am retarded? - ha.) Here I started to read your personal philosophy page, and your "handbook". Wow. (I think you just changed some of these pages, that I find differently in these days?)
I am interested in the future.
Therefore I want to see/know how you, as a forward thinker, look to being a creator, both of your personal future, and for those around you. It is also my personal insight that the coming years will revolve around China, and what you, and all others think and do.
I could comment on your "Favorite Problems List", or Personal Values. The ones that I resonate with the most are:
✓Form an engaged community and empower others (and myself) to unleash our potential.
✓How can I better understand human behavior and motivation? (In other words, what will be the engaging part?)
✓Serve as a cultural exchange bridge between the East and West, exploring history and philosophy.
✓Gather a group of like-minded people to collaborate on cool projects together. (Not too like-minded though, otherwise nothing will happen. You need a motivating tension.) And since Substack is in ALL time zones, it is international, and based on writing.
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About this post on Love and Relationships! It is a huge family of topics. I really can't say what I think in a comment format.
One step below relationships is our automatic reactive nature, that we justify daily. (It is not nefarious though, because "justification" is one of the main natures of humanity). All relationships are continually bludgeoned by our unconscious operating systems. Everybody has one, or many of them.
I could agree with a ton of things you say. Like have some preferences, but basically just "let it happen". Why should yesterday's premises (always), control my tomorrow. Why do you need an out-dated formula to live life? Can you merely trust your ability to meet what comes to you? I think that learning to meet what-is, (on-the-fly) has been my main endeavor. (Of course we meet it anyway, but I mean meet with an unruffled positive demeanor.)
Writing in public; Oh my-god, so important. For me writing is essential. I only want to know authors and journalists, nobody else knows how to think things through.
Openness; But not just rehashing 2nd-hand stories, (Oh Yeah, Me too.) Somewhere you say openness in silence, just gazing, with nothing important coming up. Or if something comes up, you have already learned at this stage of life, how to set-it-down before it engages.
Use subjective agency to actively create serendipity; But don't try to out-think it. Like above, serendipity occurs when you just "let-it-happen". You have to recognize it when it happens though. Hey, it is knocking on the door right now between you and me. (I am going to let it in.)
I think there must be a billion love songs. How can we navigate in that jungle of "SOULD-BE'S"? Let's start discarding them by the boat-load.
You've done a lot of research on what wise people are saying. Surely you've done much more, that didn't make the cut for this article. I didn't follow those links, because somewhere I thought you said that we are each a unique individual. I didn't find that quickly. Maybe it was in another one of your writings.
Thanks for your detailed reply and thanks for reading my website. Happy to have a brief voice/video chat with you to answer some of your questions if you like. Feel free to let me know :)
Hello Camellia, thanks for the invitation, I would love to discuss some things with you. Although, because of time-zones, I suggest it should be written, and in public. It could be on either your, or my substack. We should share what we discover talking to each other, with our readership.
I do think we can both discover, and not be blocked on our earlier conclusions. That is because both of our sites are engaged in understanding, and not just pouring out "our expertise" and authority. I call it the synergy of open dialog. Certain people do have "authority" and a lifetime of one major focus, and that is right for them. Not for me.
Discussion often boils down to semantics, agreeing on a choice of definitions. Our site is new, so there are not so many examples. (And as I survey Substack, I would say that older sites don't have much discussion either.) It must be some kind of a convention, just give thumbs-up and pass on by.
As an example, our longest discussion was 16 back and forths, talking about ambition. The piece itself was about 1,200 words, but the 16 discussion comments were about 5,400 words. Sometimes it takes a lot of work to get on the same page. That also depends on considering examples that might be slightly off topic. So part of discussion is narrowing down the subject. You can comment anything on my site, and I will get notice and respond. Or I can find some good topics on your site. Please check out the discussion I referred to:
OK, fine, let's choose a subject that "piques your interest". But not too many all at once. At one place you say, "Accelerate idea exchanges beyond language and culture barriers."
Our latest post is about how language limits us, and how different languages may have different slants on those limits. That doesn't mean Don't-Use-a-Language. It only means be cognizant of where it is pushing you, and "maybe" compensate for it. I would love to hear comments from a Chinese point of view.
So discussing this might be a foundation for crossing cultural barriers.
Other than that, point me to a post here you want to discuss, or write a new one. Discussing here on "Love and Relationships" will be too much off topic. (Or tell me truly, what value you have received from Carl Jung, and how has your life changed from it?)
Very funny in spots too, after reading this I imagined a visit to a shrink - never been or want to LOL).
And it felt like I am lying down on the couch, the 'shrink' with note pad and pencil who is behind me, not visible, is asking all these questions and making notes .. and I am thinking:
"oh my god" I hope the assessment is, that I am not weird or a special case that deserves more academic research .... LOL, HAHAHA.
I think overthinking can be adding to much spice to a dish, perhaps a balance is required as the heart has a language the mind does not understand.
Love ? - my experience of it is sort of like ( it sounds dumb, since it is non judgemental state)
creating for creating sake, like my guitar compositions that I love doing ( jazz/classical ) and not worrying about other people's opinions - in this way or process, state of mind, I have over 350 pieces, since COVID. I must be in love :). I also love the musical Mandarin language.
Hello Camellia Yang. Congratulations on a really remarkable Substack. (My site is only a few months old, I am retarded? - ha.) Here I started to read your personal philosophy page, and your "handbook". Wow. (I think you just changed some of these pages, that I find differently in these days?)
I am interested in the future.
Therefore I want to see/know how you, as a forward thinker, look to being a creator, both of your personal future, and for those around you. It is also my personal insight that the coming years will revolve around China, and what you, and all others think and do.
I could comment on your "Favorite Problems List", or Personal Values. The ones that I resonate with the most are:
✓Form an engaged community and empower others (and myself) to unleash our potential.
✓How can I better understand human behavior and motivation? (In other words, what will be the engaging part?)
✓Serve as a cultural exchange bridge between the East and West, exploring history and philosophy.
✓Gather a group of like-minded people to collaborate on cool projects together. (Not too like-minded though, otherwise nothing will happen. You need a motivating tension.) And since Substack is in ALL time zones, it is international, and based on writing.
____________
About this post on Love and Relationships! It is a huge family of topics. I really can't say what I think in a comment format.
One step below relationships is our automatic reactive nature, that we justify daily. (It is not nefarious though, because "justification" is one of the main natures of humanity). All relationships are continually bludgeoned by our unconscious operating systems. Everybody has one, or many of them.
I could agree with a ton of things you say. Like have some preferences, but basically just "let it happen". Why should yesterday's premises (always), control my tomorrow. Why do you need an out-dated formula to live life? Can you merely trust your ability to meet what comes to you? I think that learning to meet what-is, (on-the-fly) has been my main endeavor. (Of course we meet it anyway, but I mean meet with an unruffled positive demeanor.)
Writing in public; Oh my-god, so important. For me writing is essential. I only want to know authors and journalists, nobody else knows how to think things through.
Openness; But not just rehashing 2nd-hand stories, (Oh Yeah, Me too.) Somewhere you say openness in silence, just gazing, with nothing important coming up. Or if something comes up, you have already learned at this stage of life, how to set-it-down before it engages.
Use subjective agency to actively create serendipity; But don't try to out-think it. Like above, serendipity occurs when you just "let-it-happen". You have to recognize it when it happens though. Hey, it is knocking on the door right now between you and me. (I am going to let it in.)
I think there must be a billion love songs. How can we navigate in that jungle of "SOULD-BE'S"? Let's start discarding them by the boat-load.
You've done a lot of research on what wise people are saying. Surely you've done much more, that didn't make the cut for this article. I didn't follow those links, because somewhere I thought you said that we are each a unique individual. I didn't find that quickly. Maybe it was in another one of your writings.
Let's see what you say?
.
Thanks for your detailed reply and thanks for reading my website. Happy to have a brief voice/video chat with you to answer some of your questions if you like. Feel free to let me know :)
Hello Camellia, thanks for the invitation, I would love to discuss some things with you. Although, because of time-zones, I suggest it should be written, and in public. It could be on either your, or my substack. We should share what we discover talking to each other, with our readership.
I do think we can both discover, and not be blocked on our earlier conclusions. That is because both of our sites are engaged in understanding, and not just pouring out "our expertise" and authority. I call it the synergy of open dialog. Certain people do have "authority" and a lifetime of one major focus, and that is right for them. Not for me.
Discussion often boils down to semantics, agreeing on a choice of definitions. Our site is new, so there are not so many examples. (And as I survey Substack, I would say that older sites don't have much discussion either.) It must be some kind of a convention, just give thumbs-up and pass on by.
As an example, our longest discussion was 16 back and forths, talking about ambition. The piece itself was about 1,200 words, but the 16 discussion comments were about 5,400 words. Sometimes it takes a lot of work to get on the same page. That also depends on considering examples that might be slightly off topic. So part of discussion is narrowing down the subject. You can comment anything on my site, and I will get notice and respond. Or I can find some good topics on your site. Please check out the discussion I referred to:
https://whynotthink.substack.com/p/2a-be-self-centered
.
Sounds cool! I enjoy experimenting with various formats to delve into subjects that pique my interest.
OK, fine, let's choose a subject that "piques your interest". But not too many all at once. At one place you say, "Accelerate idea exchanges beyond language and culture barriers."
Our latest post is about how language limits us, and how different languages may have different slants on those limits. That doesn't mean Don't-Use-a-Language. It only means be cognizant of where it is pushing you, and "maybe" compensate for it. I would love to hear comments from a Chinese point of view.
https://whynotthink.substack.com/p/1-dbt-ancient-mankind-lived-only
So discussing this might be a foundation for crossing cultural barriers.
Other than that, point me to a post here you want to discuss, or write a new one. Discussing here on "Love and Relationships" will be too much off topic. (Or tell me truly, what value you have received from Carl Jung, and how has your life changed from it?)
In anticipation of a good dialog.
.
WOW, these are amazing great insights.
Very funny in spots too, after reading this I imagined a visit to a shrink - never been or want to LOL).
And it felt like I am lying down on the couch, the 'shrink' with note pad and pencil who is behind me, not visible, is asking all these questions and making notes .. and I am thinking:
"oh my god" I hope the assessment is, that I am not weird or a special case that deserves more academic research .... LOL, HAHAHA.
I think overthinking can be adding to much spice to a dish, perhaps a balance is required as the heart has a language the mind does not understand.
Love ? - my experience of it is sort of like ( it sounds dumb, since it is non judgemental state)
creating for creating sake, like my guitar compositions that I love doing ( jazz/classical ) and not worrying about other people's opinions - in this way or process, state of mind, I have over 350 pieces, since COVID. I must be in love :). I also love the musical Mandarin language.
Very enjoyable writing, thank you.
Thank you as always for reading it and sharing your review! 加油学习中文！
是的，卡米拉，我喜欢学习中国文化和语言。我希望能像当地人一样说话